I foresee a 'market for lemons' type problem. If the idea is to focus on personalities then this network is less interesting to those who gain an advantage by their looks or high status. Without those people involved it is much more likely that the person (with the wonderfully matched personality) is unattractive/low status, making your network low value to very many people.
So to get off the ground you probably need a pool of attractive/high status people to commit to your network and to credibly commit to being willing to match on personalities, hard to do I think.....
Men on dating apps are looking for the prettiest woman that they think they might have a chance with. Women on dating apps are competing for an even smaller pool of successful 'alpha' men. This reality is now well known so the persistence of these delusional ideas about it being about finding like-minded personalities and blah blah is a kind of asexual fairytale. Finding out if you are compatible etc comes AFTER the dating; it's rarely what drives it. https://grahamcunningham.substack.com/
Sounds creepy. It presumes that our online selves is the sum of who we really are: the AI will train itself on what we have shared. The Luddite in me is repulsed. We may learn later that this technology is a great boon to the lonely and housebound. Give it a go and I will watch.
Excellent idea, I love it! During my dating journey (30 years ago thank goodness) Introverted types (myself included) needed a network of Extroverts (TMFs) to meet other Introverts! I've always thought that Introverts are solid if not great partners but lousy in connecting with others and dealing with the shallowness of the dating process. It is really draining and unpleasant. Someone that would be a great match (another introvert) goes "undiscovered" because THAT individual isn't out connecting and going through the shallowness of the dating cycle either. This would be a way to eliminate the necessary "Extroverted" Mutual Friend for both.
Men on dating apps are looking for the prettiest woman that they think they might have a chance with. Women on dating apps are competing for an even smaller pool of successful 'alpha' men. This reality is now well known so the persistence of these delusional ideas about it being about finding like-minded personalities and blah blah is a kind of asexual fairytale. Finding out if you are compatible etc comes AFTER the dating; it's rarely what drives it.
The biggest issue I see, or at least the most interesting to talk about, is the time commitment required for the AI to sideways itself into a knowledge of each person through indirect conversation. Mutual friends often have spent hours on end socializing and engaging in unguarded conversation, whereas the AI is always going to be a, shall we say motivated interlocutor. How long do I have to spend with it for it to realize I may say "I am really into women who spend a lot of time at the gym" by what I really need is "A woman who can get around under her own power, and likes to cook." It seems doable, but all of the obvious reference points are easily gamed or just false signals.
In a lot of ways, you need an AI that can identify what your parents are like, and then find people like that. I imagine that would have the highest success rate.
I'm in the category of elders. I went on a dating site last fall, dated some and met some interesting women. In late January I met my current partner.
It all sounds like an ad for a dating site, BUT we both agree that the fact that her brother-in-law had been one of my best students in the mid-70s (and that when we discoverd this, he wrote positive letters to each of us about the other person) played an important role in developing more trust more quickly than could have happened otherwise. A mutual friend was a big help in our case.
Sounds good! Step two would be to incorporate a sense of smell in TMF, to detect pheromone or chemical compatibility, i.e., the nosy mutual friend, ha ha.
I foresee a 'market for lemons' type problem. If the idea is to focus on personalities then this network is less interesting to those who gain an advantage by their looks or high status. Without those people involved it is much more likely that the person (with the wonderfully matched personality) is unattractive/low status, making your network low value to very many people.
So to get off the ground you probably need a pool of attractive/high status people to commit to your network and to credibly commit to being willing to match on personalities, hard to do I think.....
Men on dating apps are looking for the prettiest woman that they think they might have a chance with. Women on dating apps are competing for an even smaller pool of successful 'alpha' men. This reality is now well known so the persistence of these delusional ideas about it being about finding like-minded personalities and blah blah is a kind of asexual fairytale. Finding out if you are compatible etc comes AFTER the dating; it's rarely what drives it. https://grahamcunningham.substack.com/
This is how the AI apocalypse begins. Once people train LLMs to game the matchmaking AI, a rapid improvement loop leads to foom!
Who doesn’t like walking on beaches, romantic comedies, snuggling under blankets and holding hands?
Sounds creepy. It presumes that our online selves is the sum of who we really are: the AI will train itself on what we have shared. The Luddite in me is repulsed. We may learn later that this technology is a great boon to the lonely and housebound. Give it a go and I will watch.
I think it's a cool idea. I generally dislike online dating but if that's the baseline this sound better then what we got.
Excellent idea, I love it! During my dating journey (30 years ago thank goodness) Introverted types (myself included) needed a network of Extroverts (TMFs) to meet other Introverts! I've always thought that Introverts are solid if not great partners but lousy in connecting with others and dealing with the shallowness of the dating process. It is really draining and unpleasant. Someone that would be a great match (another introvert) goes "undiscovered" because THAT individual isn't out connecting and going through the shallowness of the dating cycle either. This would be a way to eliminate the necessary "Extroverted" Mutual Friend for both.
Men on dating apps are looking for the prettiest woman that they think they might have a chance with. Women on dating apps are competing for an even smaller pool of successful 'alpha' men. This reality is now well known so the persistence of these delusional ideas about it being about finding like-minded personalities and blah blah is a kind of asexual fairytale. Finding out if you are compatible etc comes AFTER the dating; it's rarely what drives it.
Good synthesis. Likely monetization strategies will include charging to match someone above their current opportunity set.
Those groups might be a plurality but I don't think it's a majority.
But after the sex gets old, it’s back to basics.
Yes absolutely....I make this point in my last sentence. But in terms of the thrust of my comment that is beside the point.
The biggest issue I see, or at least the most interesting to talk about, is the time commitment required for the AI to sideways itself into a knowledge of each person through indirect conversation. Mutual friends often have spent hours on end socializing and engaging in unguarded conversation, whereas the AI is always going to be a, shall we say motivated interlocutor. How long do I have to spend with it for it to realize I may say "I am really into women who spend a lot of time at the gym" by what I really need is "A woman who can get around under her own power, and likes to cook." It seems doable, but all of the obvious reference points are easily gamed or just false signals.
In a lot of ways, you need an AI that can identify what your parents are like, and then find people like that. I imagine that would have the highest success rate.
I'm in the category of elders. I went on a dating site last fall, dated some and met some interesting women. In late January I met my current partner.
It all sounds like an ad for a dating site, BUT we both agree that the fact that her brother-in-law had been one of my best students in the mid-70s (and that when we discoverd this, he wrote positive letters to each of us about the other person) played an important role in developing more trust more quickly than could have happened otherwise. A mutual friend was a big help in our case.
Sounds good! Step two would be to incorporate a sense of smell in TMF, to detect pheromone or chemical compatibility, i.e., the nosy mutual friend, ha ha.
What a concept. But as it doesn’t generate income, there’s probably not much of a future for it.
You mean like wikipedia? Craig's list? ...