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Your discussion of "men who have very bad luck in that department." is too cursory. Polygamous societies create large numbers of unmarried and unmarriageable men. This creates all sorts of structure issues for a society. See my book, Darwinian Politics, Rutgers Press, 2002, which deals with many issues you discuss.

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Yes, you have honed in on the most important observation in this essay: "Men may desire more sex partners, but the average has to turn out to be equal". In other words, if one 'cad' has ten women on the go, nine men will have none. This obvious fact gets skidded over in most journalism on sexual mating...a kind of unholy alliance between feminist journos who mostly want to bitch about 'Men' in general and male journos who want to be sure to come across as being in the 'stud' camp. And most of the commentary here does likewise.

I am a happily married 70+ so all this is now academic to me. But "when the men are ready to give up the Cad lifestyle." should really be "when the 10% of men are ready to give up the Cad lifestyle". The other 90% generally never even get the chance. https://grahamcunningham.substack.com/

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