Substacks offer relationship advice
Bryan Caplan's advice for women; Scott Alexander defends dating profiles; Rob Henderson on the case for commitment
While common interests are good, common values are better. Above all, find a partner who wants about the same number of kids as you do.
There is much more advice at the link, but I think those particular sentences are sufficient.
When I was on the dating market, I was only considering women who met all of the following (estimated percent of people who satisfied each in parentheses)…
I dated several in a row, and I eventually married one. In cities with millions of people, it’s easy to find good matches as long as you don’t dismiss pre-screening as impossible before you even begin.
Rob Henderson says that the problem with dating apps is that they produce too many matches and not enough commitment.
A recent study found that after casual sex, women, on average, report high levels of loneliness, unhappiness, rejection, and regret. Conversely, men report higher satisfaction, happiness, contentment, and mood improvement.
This is one of a few dynamics where social progress supposedly intended to benefit women instead ended up benefiting men.
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You will be judged by and be influenced by the company you keep. Also, the company you keep is your selection pool.
If you want to signal that you don't sleep around, you've got to be around other people that don't sleep around.
If you want to get married in your mid-20s, be around other people trying to get married in your mid-20s.
If you want to have lots of kids, be around people that want to have lots of kids.
I would focus on finding in-person mixed sex peer groups to join based on desired criteria and then see what happens over time.
Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. For about 80%, so a good, 80% true stereotype. In casual sex, women are screwed-it’s NOT a transaction. So “why buy the cow when the milk is free?” Of course many men don’t commit to such horny, easy girls. Women, especially Black women, need to say No, not before marriage. Naturally, feminists blame men instead of the promiscuous women, who are sleeping around like sluts. (I sure enjoyed them when I was younger, tho. Now I consider my activities a mistake.)
I would also guess that lots of normal women , 5, 6, 7, & 8s are sleeping with 9 & 10s ( hot or not scales). At least rock groupies mostly know it’s just fun for the guys, little relationship expectations.