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Roger Sweeny's avatar

"the declining birthrate is downstream of declining relationship formation. I suppose "selfish couples who hate babies" are a more respectable topic than the death of romance (and sex)?"

NO NO NO! Neither are about excessive selfishness or hate. They are both about the fact that it is now often easier not to initiate a relationship and not to have a baby than it is to go out and find someone or to take on the open-ended task that begins with nine months of pregnancy.

There are so many things one can do by oneself or with a small group that just aren't so emotionally freighted. And moderns seem to find it harder to make the emotional effort; they seem to be more afraid of emotional hurt; they seem to feel unsafe more easily and find it harder to take.

And there are so many things a married couple can do without children, many of which they will have to give up if they have a child. (This is often hidden as, "We can't afford to ..." while spending money on eating out, ordering in, streaming services, vacations that aren't cheap, etc.)

Opportunity cost, people. Opportunity cost.

James Golden's avatar

If we could wave a magic wand and make both birth control and free unlimited Internet porn disappear for good, I suspect we'd be back to have lots of babies in no short order.

Of course, we can't wave a magic wand and do either of those two things, which makes it hard to see what the solution will be.

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